Wednesday, February 25, 2009

A Cozy Conversation

It's just the two of us, sitting on the couch in front of the fire. No TV, no computer, no phone, no books, no dogs, no kids, no distractions. Together, we consider how our relationship has changed through the years and describe our hopes and dreams for the future. We share our fears and discuss how we can help each other. We talk, we listen, we learn about each other, and through this cozy conversation, we grow closer.

This is my "fantasy" of an ideal relationship. I would love to sit up all night with DH and just talk about whatever was on our minds. Of course, the thought of spending more than 20 minutes in serious conversation with me sends him running for the remote control. It's not that he doesn't want to talk; he does. What he doesn't want is little to me carry on for 30 minutes about why I would like to buy a new shower curtain... and THEN ask him what he thinks and ask HIS reasoning behind it. Like most men, DH does not really care about that stuff. He sees the big picture and that's that. ("Will we still have a shower curtain? Okay then.")

I need to try harder not to bore him with unnecessary details. Did I really need to call him at work to tell him that we didn't get any mail? Did he really want to hear the "drama" with the cashier on my last shopping trip, THEN sit so I could show him what I got, item by item, and listen as I explained how much it was originally and how much I actually spent on it?

So here I lament that I probably shouldn't share each little detail of my life, my every random thought, or those silly little fears with my best friend, my husband. And at the same time, God longs for EXACTLY that sort of relationship with me. He loves me so much and wants to spend time with me, but I so often give him the cold shoulder, or go running for the remote control! The Lord wants me to tell him all the little stuff, confide in him, seek his opinion, and listen and learn from him. I find it a bit odd to compare prayer to a long chat with my hubby, but I'm beginning to believe that that's what I need to do in order to build that relationship.

Prayer - It's just the two of us, sitting on the couch in front of the fire. No TV, no computer, no phone, no books, no dogs, no kids, no distractions. Together, we consider how our relationship has changed through the years and describe our hopes and dreams for the future. We share our fears and discuss how we can help each other. We talk, we listen, we learn about each other, and through this cozy conversation, we grow closer.

"For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." - Romans 8:38-39

2 comments:

Reid and Lucy Greenslade said...

Rachel,
You are such an encouragement to me! And...although our husbands do not want to hear all the specific details of our day, our Lord and our girlfriends do! Your honesty and little details you have shared in your blog have been encouraging and made me smile for the past couple of days. Keep on blogging. I may have to join in soon!

Lucy

Rachel said...

Lucy,
You are always an encouragement to me, as well. We need to have a girl's night so we can talk details as long as we want... well, until bedtime for the kiddos, that is!